Children’s Grief Awareness Month

When sitting down to write about this very important topic, I hesitated. Where do I start? What should I focus on? There’s so many feelings that come with grief. And that’s when I knew, it’s important to acknowledge them all….starting with our own emotions and reactions.

To help children, we must first be honest with ourselves and how we feel. Without first exploring this, we can’t truly see any walls we may put up when it comes to helping children. We need to be honest with ourselves and take a look at the wave of emotions, thoughts, and realizations that we go through when someone we know dies. Seeing ourselves more clearly will allow us to enter into conversations with children who do not possess the coping mechanisms or ability to decipher their emotions.

Because when children lose someone they love, they need our support, our love, and our help. They need us to be honest with our word choices about death, but compassionate and gentle with our approach. No adult wants to have children experience grief, but it happens. Their tears and heart ache will trade places with anger, fear, loneliness, and perhaps even self blame at any moment.

It’s important to note that even though they are stages to grief, they do not go in any specific order. Once again, grief has no order. Grief hits unexpectedly, and the “stages” come and go, interchange, and jumble with however someone is feeling at that moment.

Every child is different with how they experience grief. The best thing we can do is to be present, support them, and love them.

Vivian Kirkfield’s 50 Precious Words Contest

Hi everyone and happy Saturday. Today I am entering Vivian Kirkfield’s 50 precious words writing contest. Below is my entry followed by the guidelines for the contest if you’d like to enter. It really encourages creativity and…it’s fun! Have a great weekend!

Playful Puddles

Janie sits
by the sill
as the gray draws near.

She grabs her coat
jumps in her boots
and thunders
out the door.
She holds her breath…
The magic’s
almost here.
Then presents plop,
            drip and
She jumps.
She smiles
and laughs.
is finally here.

  1. Write a story appropriate for kids ages 12 or under, that has a total word count of 50 or less.
  2. It can be prose, rhyme, free verse, silly or serious…whatever works for you.
  3. Title is not included in the word count.
  4. No illustration notes please.
  5. he contest officially opens today, Saturday, February 29, in this special post on my blog.
  6. Between February 29 and March 5, post your story in the comments of this special contest blog post. If you have a blog of your own and want to post it there also, that is terrific…please add the link to your comment so we can all go and visit you there.  Also, please make sure you put your name in the post.
  7. Only ONE entry per person, please.
  8. Deadline for posting the story in the comments is Thursday, March 5, at 11:59pm.
  9. Winners will be announced Saturday, March 21.
  10. Winners? Of course, there will be winners…and prizes, too! There are critiques with EDITORS, seats in WRITING CLASSES, CRITIQUES by published authors, SIGNED PICTURE BOOKS…and more. The book prizes are limited to USA addresses, please.

Friday Faves: Just Right for Two by Travey Corderoy & Rosalind Beardshaw

Hi everyone! I have a WONDERFUL book to share with you today. I absolutely love this book! It’s a story about Dog who feels he has everything he needs in his blue suitcase. One morning, he wakes up to find Mouse sleeping next to him on his suitcase. Dog says this won’t do, and Mouse promises to leave after he sees what’s in Dog’s suitcase; this leads to sharing, and then a fun game. After Mouse is gone, Dog feels like something is missing in his life and sets off to find what it could be. He bumps into Mouse who helps him discover that he was missing his friend all along. It’s just so adorable! It’s a gentle tale of friendship with beautiful illustrations that will delight both young and old. I hope you find time to enjoy this book, happy reading!

Lyrics of love for my kids compliments of Jason Mraz ♥️

“Have It All” by Jason Mraz

May you have auspiciousness and causes of success
May you have the confidence to aslways do your best
May you take no effort in being generous
Sharing what you can, nothing more nothing less
May you know the meaning of the word happiness
May you always lead from the beating in your hcest
May you be treated like an esteemed guest
May you get to rest, may you catch your breath

And may the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows
And may the road less paved be the road that you follow

Well here's to the hearts that you're gonna break
Here's to the lives that you're gonna change
Here's to the infinite possible ways to love
I want you to have it
Here's to the good times we're gonna have
You don't need money, you got a free pass
Here's to the fact that I'll be sad without you
I want you to have it all

Small fish, Big deal

Sometimes I feel really foolish when I think about how worked up I can get with my day’s schedule of school drops offs/pickups, errands, and activities. I sadly laugh at myself because when I tell my day to a working parent they must look at me like it’s not a big deal. They’re juggling a profession and a family, and I can only imagine the stress they must feel.

But it’s still my day, and I’m in charge of it, trying my best for me and my family. Even though they may be little things, they are a big deal to me. I feel with every inch of myself. I am a mother who wears her heart and emotions on her sleeve, which, is not always the best place for them by the way. When bumps occur in my day, which they always do, they jolt me a little harder than they should, nicking away at my strength, patience, and level of calmness. So by bath time, I’m pretty spent.

I need to learn the art of being a marathoner….not in the actual sense, goodness no, in the figurative manner. Spread the day out evenly with patience, and then have a reserve stashed for the last few miles. Wouldn’t that be something!?! Anyone else running this race of parenthood and finding you’re running out of steam?

Friday Faves

Wordy Birdy Meets Mr. Cougarpants

Hi everyone and happy Friday!!!!! On this beautiful Friday I’m here to rave about Tammi Sauer’s second book revolving around the ever adorable and extremely chatty Wordy Birdy. My kids LOVE this book, as do I! In this book, Wordy Birdy and her friends are going on a camping trip. She’s got lots to say during their adventure, especially when they meet up with Mr. Cougarpants. It’s delightful and everytime I say “Mr. Cougarpants” my kids can’t help but crack up. I just love it. Ok, now go read some books and enjoy your three day weekend!

Teach Our Kids With Love and Kindness

“Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read, write and count. It is a small window of time to learn and develop at a pace that is right for each individual child” Magda Gerber

Last night I went to my son’s curriculum night for preschool. I LOVE his preschool. The teachers believe in teaching at age appropriate levels, through play, and showing the children that learning is fun. After all, we want to foster their love for knowledge and set them on a great path for learning.

If we push too hard or turn learning into a forced task, we could destroy their love for learning. Instead, it would turn into an undesirable chore that they will look at with resentment. At my son’s school, they have created a wonderful learning environment where they combine fun with learning. The lessons are gently integrated into playful activities and the kids don’t see school as something scary or hard, or that they aren’t good at. They are ENCOURAGED, supported, and even loved. What a wonderful way to start their learning journey.